I recently read the term Blogging Buddies, and I don’t know what that means! I wonder if there is a formal definition somewhere. Anyway, I will share an event that could perhaps fall into the category of being a Blogging Buddy bonding experience:
She set up a blog and we interacted with comments between our blogs, adding images, writing and editing and up-dating posts, and so forth.We had a great time! We have agreed to meet again soon to continue our blog party. I think that those who hang out together for the purpose of learning more about blogging can be called Blogging Buddies,don’t you?
Many years ago I was active in several quilters’ groups. At one of the quilt shows I bought a large metal pin that said “I am a QUILT lover.” The next day when I wore it several men and women were aghast as they read it. One thought it said, “I am a QUIET lover”; one thought it said, “I am QUITE a lover”, and one thought it said, “I am a GUILTY lover.” I took it off as soon as I got home from church and never wore it again. True story.
My younger sister, Claudia, has a big family, and had
the knack of delighting in her children as they passed through each stage of
development. Even though I was older, and my children were older than hers, she
was always teaching me something valuable about rearing kids. For example:
I was visiting one
day when her son Nick, who turned 30 this year, was 5yrs old; he was invited to
play at the neighbor’s house across the street. It was raining, so Claudia
found a jacket with a hood and some rain boots for him to wear for his walk. It was a quiet neighborhood, and both Moms would be watching as Nick crossed the street. Claudia kissed Nick and said, “Now walk straight over and look out for puddles,” then sent him on his way. She said to me, “Come and watch.”
I stood next to her at the window where we saw Nick find a puddle and jump in
with both feet and laugh, and then find another puddle, jump in it and laugh
again. Claudia and I both laughed as well, enjoying the experience almost as
much as Nick. I turned to Claudia and asked if she felt a little sad to see
that Nick was disobeying her. “He’s not,” she said, “I didn’t tell
him to STAY out of the puddles, I told him to LOOK out for puddles. He looked
out for them, found them, and did what every child should do – jump in!”
Another lesson learned.
My sister in law JoAnne sent me an email
saying that she was somewhat disappointed in the book TheHelp because she was
expecting another To Kill A Mockingbird.
She also said once she realized she had misguided expectations, she was able to
re-evaluate “The Help” and enjoy it in its own right.
So true, JoAnne, The Help is NOT To Kill A Mockingbird.
In my opinion, here are three big
differences between the books.
To Kill A Mockingbird
1: TKAM was written through the innocent eyes
of a powerless child, albeit a precocious one.
2: TKAM was a serious book that did
not have a ‘punch line’ or anything fantastical in it. Its light heartedness
came from the fact that the children in the book did not truly realize how
dangerous and dreadful things in their lives actually were, racially,
financially, or physically; the readers know it, but the kids in the story do
3: In TKAM we are not left with the feeling
that life will change for the better, for anybody, any time soon.
1: TH was written from the viewpoint
of a college educated woman, one who is coming to the realization that her
world is terribly flawed, but she possesses power to affect it.
2: TH was not a totally serious book; it had a punch line–the chocolate pie– and a sense of fantasy about it.
The chocolate pie was pivotal to the story, and although we wish that it were
true in real life, it most likely wasn’t; yet we as readers suspend our
disbelief and accept the idea that this ‘pie’ is real. I have one problem with
that: we as readers and moviegoers must be sure to acknowledge the horrible
truth about the racial situation in the south in the 1960’s.That situation also
is nearly beyond belief, especially to the present generation. So, if the
‘terrible awful’ thing that Minnie did is a ‘joke’, was the situation in the
south in the 1960’s also a ‘joke’, or was it actual? In the movie, there is
footage from the news coverage of the time; that is very important, I think. It
moves the movie out of a possible fantasy tale and back into the real,
historical world of that time.
3: In TH we are left with the feeling of hope. Things are changing in the culture; they are changing slowly and painfully, but they are changing, and for the better.
Even though it is true that The Help is
not To Kill a Mockingbird, there are some big similarities:
Both books are generally about the same subject: racial
discrimination in the south. Both books personalize that subject with such
power that we cannot help but be moved. Both books have been made into
excellent movies. And both books are beloved by many for the stories they
tell so beautifully.